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[sandi2]

Let him know you appreciate it. Then let him know you notice when he is quiet and you want to help when he is ready.

You are right, Coach, I should verbalize that. Thanks for reminding me. It's funny, but I was told right after I married that couples often times "reverse" places in their personality and behaviors, etc., after many years of M. That seems to have happen a lot to us. But, one reason I am not as talkative to him as I was for years is b/c I think I finally gave up. I always felt like I was having a one-way conversation. But I do need to tell him that I appreciate him putting forth the effort.

Yes, it is hard to imagine you having a quiet mood.

Ain't it the truth!!

Stuck, in response to your post and asking your W about her day......she may feel pressure since OM works with her. So, maybe you could ask specific questions instead of the "general" ones we usually rely upon. Know what I mean? Like if she is working on a specific project or has something stressful she's dealing with or whatever, you might refer to "that" and show you are interested and not trying to "trick" her into giving you clues about her feelings for OM or what is going on with them. If you know her well, then you can read her body language and you'll know when not to press her. That is a sticky place for you!

Thanks guys,
Sandi