You said you were polite to her though. Polite + withdrawn = detached. Not splitting hairs, but my definition of withdrawn is aloof or giving her the cold shoulder. If you spoke politely with her in response to her questions, I don't think that is withdrawn.
You're right, Giving. I feel better. Thanks.
I'm just a bit bummed the past day or so since I admitted (was prompted to admit by the example of fellow DBers) that I've been doing the work not for me, to be the best me, but solely to save my marriage. And because of that: 7 mos since bomb +6 mos separated +6 mos double/joint IC (it really wasn't MC) +1 mo intense, earnest DBing = I'm really at square one
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
