You said you were polite to her though. Polite + withdrawn = detached. Not splitting hairs, but my definition of withdrawn is aloof or giving her the cold shoulder. If you spoke politely with her in response to her questions, I don't think that is withdrawn.
Remember, we do not want to pursue. It's ok to pull back so long as it is not in a rude or cold way.
I still don't see where you blew anything. Even if you did, which I don't think, it's ok. You're human.
