When H and I were in MC after bomb, I called the therapist and told him I would only discuss working on M and he was hired as a tool to get H to see the value of working on it the therapist agreed and after a few sessions my XH decided to not go as he had no intentions of working on M I had no intentions of discussing D/s at that time he was already in secret PA with younger secretary
I dont know if you have spoke with the therapist privately but in my opinion, therapists can be told what you have hired them for and what you will work on
you H wants to keep the A secret, like there is nothing wrong with it they will lie, cover and do wahtever to protect OW obviously many will give up everything to keep OW as you know, it is probably best to Not discuss this with H
you are aware that you are off track and maybe the beach getaway had something to do with your state of mind but you are only an affirmation away from your center you are doing well stronger than many keep chin up peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow