What's it really all about?

[AlexEN]

My approach would/will be more about having a clear conscience that we did everything we could so that we can both move on with clarity and mutual respect.

I don't know if co-parenting is the issue...perhaps.

My current experience is that I am not so convinced that H and I can have the kind of M I want and I would like to propose we walk into Retrovaille as partners in our openness and ambivalence...I truly feel that I can relate to him now and I would like to emphasize that. I would like to create that bridge between us because it is genuine.

Her conscience is clear; she believes she HAS done everything she can...

However, that effort was tainted. It was never without a "third wheel" in the picture...

Without an effort on her part, too, moving on with mutual respect cannot occur. She may well not respect me either...

So, in my sitch, co-parenting is a very important issue.

I do like this:

I would like to propose we walk into Retrovaille as partners in our openness and ambivalence...

But, for the reasons above, openness may be a stretch, too...