sounds like W wants both the keep the M and have it her way.
you sound ready to take the next step, just a warning... during my first D, exh kept asking me what we were doing everytime we went to the L. I always said we could talk after. Never talked after... always wondered what would have happened if we did... I decided that if he didn't want the D, then we wouldn't. Be certain how you proceed. If it is what you want... so be it. If you are doing this to push her buttons... then think about it.
Either way, it is a tough course. Be careful, take care of yourself and be kind. Don't forget you are a good man and a good F. Hard qualities to find. You have been very helpful to me and I will be there for you.
