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[Sanderika]

mdoodles,

He isn't pushing you IMO for 2 reasons....

He doesn't want to marry her.

He doesn't know what he wants.

You are so me....I get some wierd satisfaction of being with my H knowing full well he is cheating on her. You know what they say about payback!! AND....If she doesn't know now, she will one day...that "old talking through the grapevine" doesn't let anyone down or off the hook forever!! She will get what's coming to her and it won't come from me and when it happens it won't be pretty for H.

Our H's won't stay with these trollops forever. I agree with others they will live to regret their choices. I wonder where you and I will be when that happens. I for one hope H comes to me and voices his pain and regret over his choice.

The only reasons these OW push so hard for a D from us and M to them is that they want or need something from H. In your case a greencard. In my case money.

I am right here with you about the rush of hope a call, a visit, some sweet loving attention from H towards us gives us. It's almost like an addiction. We get our fix and we're good to go for a few.

I wonder from a man's mind what it actually does for him, how he thinks. They say a man will eat as many pieces of cake he can get away with. I don't belive my H is one of these men. I do not believe my H likes this sitch anymore than I do. I think he struggles with this turmoil constantly as do I.

My H filed for a D because OW pushed him. H has postponed D three times. I have not postponed it once. H will not move in with OW. H will not and never has introduced her to our son.
Where does she think she stands, I mean really? This woman is dilusional. After almost 4 years does she really think he is going to marry her? She is holding out til he!! freezes over just for the money...no one can convince me otherwise.

Hang in there and just take it one day at a time. Let a sleeping dog lie with regard to those custody and separation papers. Let H do all the work if it's what he wants. If he's like mine and doesn't know you may find yourself in my shoes still in limbo many more months from now. I don't say it to be mean, I never thought I would still be here 46 months post bomb.

(((((Hugs)))))

Sanderika