And let me give you the alternate POV and this is what really (in my eyes) did my H in with me.
When the legal portion of the D first started his attny sent out an initial settlement offer. I read it and threw it out and laughed. It was hysterical. In other words, if my H thought anything like that would fly he clearly was out of his mind.
Keep in mind at this point I was quite ill and my lupus was really hitting me hard. My H asked me finally if I got the offer and I said yes and I would respond through my attny as his offer was not acceptable to me. I was calm and polite even though I wanted to ask him if he was crazy.
My H, in his usual charming fashion started to say that since I was sick it made no sense for me to have more stress and if we got the offer done "his way" then I would not have stress. He tried to manipulate the situation to his advantage w/o really saying the real truth. The real truth being he thought he could dump me, cheat on me, take our car and money and leave me high and dry and somehow have no legal consequences. So, he used my illness to try and swing things his way. A 3 year old could have figured it out.
I am sad to say in that regard you remind me of my H. You quiet in your tactics of manipulation. If *we* can see it so can your W.
That is why I say its not your job to spell it out for her, assume or anything else you do.
For the life of me I cannot figure out why you think you are different than any other LBS and that your approach will somehow work. It wont. Ever.
I agree with Stacy - you always say "point taken" or you get it but NOTHING changes.
