Agh! He's detached completely!

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

Update: Yesterday I found some information out that rocked my world. My husband charged a bike for $1,500 just days after my birthday and giving me the same flowers he got for me for Valentines Day. I've talked to 4 attornies int he past 2 days and 3 out of 4 of them say it's ridiculous spending, especially because this is only the tip of the iceberg, the other one says "he can spend what he wants to, it's his money"...well no, it's not HIS money alone in this state...needless to say, I will not be working with that attorney because she was negative about that as well as my chances for getting anything at all out of this. I don't need someone who's given up before we even start, I need an advocate, someone who gives a damn and "gets it". I think I found her today, another attorney who was a referral from my friend who used her services.

I was told yesterday that I can no longer use my ex bf as an attorney cause apparently he wants to pursue our relationship once again, and it would be a conflict of interest. I was peeved he didn't let me know sooner, but whatever.

I called one of his recommendations, and she was TOTALLY negative, like I don't deserve a dime. Well sister, I don't friggen deserve this divorce, either, but I've got it, lucky me! She's not getting my business.

I did talk to one attorney who seems decent and we have plans to meet tomorrow. Unfortunatley, she sees no way that I can possibly get the house awarded to me, which I see as totally ridiculous because I get the loss on it but don't get to share in the gain in his house?? WTF? At least she says she thinks I can get some $ now because of his extravagant lifestyle that he's flaunting in front of me. I liked her, plus she's got a lot of experience in divorce law.

<Sigh> I'm so sick of talking about divorce and attornies today. Mostly, I'm sick of people telling me that I don't deserve a gd thing for all this hell that he's putting me through. I wish to god this was a fault state cause I'd so nail him for this "code of silence" bs he's been pulling. It's in a nolo.com law book I read and describes his behavior to a t.