Sandi and the rest. I wanted to add something else. My xh said to me also in a state of anger once, "you made me leave my family"????????? Sandi, I truly think my xh is NOT happy. I think he to is fighting an internal battle. He is fighting the quilt of what he did and throwing it all at me because he truly cant handle it. Until he gets over feeling quilty he will always be angry at me. I dont know if he is happy with this girl or not, but I know he is not happy about what happened to his life and what he did. He wasnt happy here so he left, now he still isnt happy BECAUSE HE HAD TO LEAVE. She, the gf, gets his mind off it every now and then...the bandaide. I am truly understanding this now. WOW...it totally makes sense. The bandaide can only last so long it seems. He wants a family so bad and is mad that he had to leave ours. His anger however he has to fix himself. He has got to come to grips with it. I wish so much I could talk to him and say to him its ok, I forgive you. Not to get him back but just to let him know I understand.
Should I write him a letter or leave him a voice mail letting him know this? Just a question. I will not contact him otherwise. I know everyone says to NOT call him, so I wont unless you think this is a good idea. Sandi, do you think he will ever come to grip with the guilt? Do you think he will ever get over being "mad" at me? Is there any hope ever again for our family?
