but did i? i still feel like even though i said it, it doesnt affect him.
Doodles, repeat after me slowly:
"NO . . . LONGER . . . MY . . . CONCERN."
You do it (establish the boundary) because IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO. NOT to get any sort of reaction out of him.
The rest of your post just proves my point, I'm afraid. For god's sake, take your son to the baseball game BECAUSE IT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO, not to see if it "affects (your husband)."
