I promise you the DONT get it. They cant. Their little grey brain cells are programmed to NOT get it. Period. What is your goal: "bye bye have a good life, be well so that my kids have a mother" type of letter? What it is? Trying to sound determined?
And when we say vulnerability and detachment dont assume you have to SHOW vulnerability at all phases. Just keep your heart vulnerable. It may be productive to show otherwise to your W, but INSIDE, keep that spark alive.
Anyway, my H responded well to "have a nice life, sure I want you to be well and find a nice woman to make you happy but you are only the father to my kids for me". And I was sweet, no emotion, polite and short. Of course he bought it when I truly meant it... Talking about a mess!!!! K
