When my W came back it was because our youngest suffers from severe eczema. It had gotten worse when my W moved to her sister's place. The pediatrician actually looked at my D and was surprised as to how bad it had gotten. So he asked us if there was any change in terms of her environment that might have aggravated it. I gave my W that "I wonder what that could be" look.
After the appointment, I told my W that regardless of what she wanted, I insisted that my Ds stay with me at home for their health. I told her that I really didn't care about her any more and that the girls were my first priority. I told her that I could take care of them on my own and that since she didn't want to be home, I could do it myself.
She told me she would "think about it" which got me more upset because it was like she was putting her needs before the girls. Later that day (this was in Dec.) she said she would come over for 2 weeks to let my youngest heal. So during those 2 weeks, it was pretty tense. She was angry all the time, but I kept things as light as possible. Right after the 2 weeks, she announced she was leaving with the girls again as my youngest had healed. So she left...then came back the next day. Evidently when they went back, my D's skin flared up again badly. So she said she'd stay for another 2 weeks.
After that, she never left. A good sign is that she had been bringing home some of her clothing from her sister's place a little at a time. While she is home, I've been ramping up my DBing and trying to GAL.
Today things are much better than they were before. When we are together, I try to turn on the charm without overdoing it and think about what got us attracted to each other in the first place. I basically look in her eyes alot to see when we are "connecting". I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.
I'm trying to increase amount of time I feel that "connection" working. Then try to increase their duration. Today she actually looks at me more when we're talking which is a huge step from when she first came back in Dec. And I can get close to her without causing her to jump out of her skin.
Slowly but surely I know I can get there. You will too.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
