You know what, I take offense to the "beaten up enough" comment.
You rarely *do* get the point and the one point you cant seem to grasp is you are not a victim unless you allow yourself to be.
You made a post in the "we're separated" folder that you were moving your thread back to newcomers because you werent getting enough attention/responses as you had hoped. So, you post here and get plenty of respones (you just dont like them) and now you are getting "beat up".
Eventually nobody will post to you if you keep making comments like that. I hardly classify three caring people (with far more experience than you in the detachement arena) pointing out how you could have handled things better so you can learn for future conversations with your W getting "beaten up". Geesh.
You complain when nobody responds and you complain when they do. What exactly are you looking for here? Help us help you and lay it all out on the line so we are perfectly clear.
