I got behind and finally had to skip over some pages b/c I've been reading too much and getting a bad headache. Anyway, what I wanted to tell you is this: as you know, I've been M a long time. My H and I have been through many bad experiences. Just some of that was him not having a job...on more than one occassion. Everytime this happened, I would worry and get scared, etc., except for the last time.....that time I felt I had grown enough and had learned that God was going to take care of us as long as He had a plan for us here on Earth! Don't mean to sound as if I am making something serious sound simple, but it depends on "faith" and if you have it and "Who" you have faith in. Our faith was in God and it was Him we trusted to help us find the work for my H. Yes, it was a test but I think we did better that last time than we did the first time he was without a job. It can be a growing experience or it can break you. Our country is in scary times, but my parents went through the great depression when they were kids and I heard my grandparents talk about it......not something I would want to live through for sure. What I'm trying to say (in a not so good of a way) is that you are going to be okay. Please know that. You will have to search hard but you will find the job for you. Might be that you will have to settle for something "less" than what you wanted...for a period of time.....but it will be okay. If I did not believe that 100% I would not tell you. I can't promise that your M will be fine b/c your W has some serious issues. One being that she is a selfish b*thch!! To a man, his job is part of "who" is is and he bases a lot of his self-esteem on his work. It's too bad that she is too dumb and self-centered to realize that. It's time for you to go into self survival mode and stop worrying about her. She will drive you nuts if you continue to listen to that negative crushing talk.
One more thing.....about the 7 year old. Couples today talk way too much in front of their children. I can't imagine being 7 years old and worried that I would not have a place to live or how we would make it the next day. He is worried that mommy isn't coming home! That is heartbreaking. You may not have a job, sweetie, but you can offer your children security just by giving them your physcial presence and love. Reassuring them that they will be taken care of and both parents love them. That's all kids really want, to know they have both their parents and are loved.
Talk to you later, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
