Gotta agree with Pup on his assertion that don'tgiveashitness is harmful to later chance of reconciling.
It's great for the individual to toughen up and GAL and not need the WAS. Essential for his/her mental health in the long run. But there is a delicate balance in staying open to truly caring about the other person. And that is really hard when the other person is hurting you. Still, this is the essence of fb2's bitterness to his wife. He tried. He cared. And what did he get in return? Coldness, don'tgiveashitness. A very ugly thing to get in return for caring.
So if your goal is reconciliation, then building a wall between you is not helpful in the long run.
