WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 10

[confusedinpa]

C - Sounds like you're doing the BEST you can. Which is whats important. Just like everyone on here stresses just continue to become the BEST version of yourself you can. If she has her mind made up that SHE CANT FORGIVE the past then that is her stuff. I know I DEAL with FORGIVENESS everyday in regard to what my X did. I try FORGIVING HER everyday as well as myself. It's not always easy, but necessary. At some point she will have to realize that you can't change the past and have to do what's best for the present and future. Hopefully, she will realize staying together and working on a new R and M is what is best for all of you.

Stay strong and keep praying for patience and Love,

PMA

PMA_Baby!

Thanks for the support and encouragement.

I know she's not forgiving enough to let go of the past to trust me again. That's her choice. Ironically, the retired couple that I talked to asked if I can forgive her for what's she's done, even if she came back. I was a little taken back by the question, as I never thought that I would not forgive her. Initially I felt sorry for how much hurt she felt that she was enduring while I was plodding along in my own world fat dumb and happy that things were going great. Now, with my job loss, I'm really focusing more on that situation now and haven't spent as much time thinking about her.

Maybe this will be a good thing as it will distract/detach me from the relationship situation. Who knows.

I do hope that she sees a way to have a happy life with me. Right now, I think she's relieved to be in her own place and away from me.

Thanks again

CIPA