OK, I knew this would take some time to compile so I'm been doing it off-line whenever I have a few minutes thru out the day. Its a little tough to put some this down as it was a few days ago D18 and I had our talk and I had some time to mull it over, so I don't what to put my twist on what was said and to do that with broken continuity of doing this at work plus just the context of what was said ... <oi> ... but I'll give it my best shot...

A few posts ago, I mentioned I know CAW used her cell phone to try to call OM back on Oct. 12th (a Sunday evening) and by the timing of the call, I could tell it was after attending D18's candle party. D18 filled in some more info. CAw went outside to make the call but the signal was going thru, so she came back in and asked D18 if she could use her phone to call "... since she could get thru to him." D18 thought the "him" she was refering to was me, so she said sure.

The phone is in the kitchen and while D18 stayed in the living room she could see and hear. CAW dialed and handed it best friend (BF) - they came to party together. D18 heared BF ask for OM by name, then handed the phone to CAW. D18 picked up from discussion after phone call, since BF drove CAW to party, she would take her to OM's place. It was OM's W who answered the phone when BF called, but handed phone to CAW to talk to OM when she asked for him. When OM got on the phone CAw tried to talk to him, but he hung up, then the two of them stormed out of D18's apartment without even saying goodbye to her. D18 was shocked and very hurt by what she just witnessed.

This is the same BF, that last year was against CAW trying to leave the M and pursuing OM. Now it appears she is encouraging it. They work together in a school cafeteria's kitchen and last month D18 was hired on as a cashier. D18 told me how CAW is now frequently "dissing" me to BF but it comes across to D18 as petty stuff and how she is always talking to BF about OM like a little school girl. D18 was hurt again one day when she came around the corner as she heard them talking about him and CAW told her, "You don't want to hear this, so leave." She turned around and walked away.

The petty stuff is her way of rejecting my 180's. For instance, CAW use to give D18 an earful about how I didn't seem to support her having a job because I never ask about it. So I made it part of the dinner convo to ask how her day was. Now she is dissing that I'm always being nosy
about what she does at work. To D18, it seems like she is still trying to make me out as a bad guy in order to carry on with OM. D18 also is getting the impression that CAW is trying to provoke me into giving up and filing a "D" as she believes then I would be more cooperative in making a settlement of the split easier.

As far as the warning that CAW may be thinking of moving out, D18 was telling CAW this week how one of her friends moved into a new apartment, CAW perked up some and started asking all kinds of questions more directed about the apartment than interest in friend's move ... where, what
it was like and how much was the rent. When D18 answered the last, CAW's comeback was "Its too much." more to herself with an expression D18 took a wistful thinking as she was interested for herself.

So add these pieces to the "gold pocketwatch" piece and to the distant cold shoulder CAW been giving me lately and its no longer telling a story of CAW trying to piece this M together. I know some of you are gonna say this is all circumstantial, but when enough pieces fit together its hard to refute the image portrayed.

Well, I basically run out of time today, so I'll post what I have and will wait for your feedback. Just want you to know that with all this I'm OK ... am looking out for me ... hope to go to the movies this weekend with D's. Just very glum about holding any hope for an outcome of
a happy M at this point.

'til later,
KAW