You can't go back to the old marriage. Both of you need to be one the same page for a reconciliation. Greek told me she was "all in." She started reading a lot of the books I read and started reading here once she got over the initial shock.
So far, Mrs. Thinker has shown absolutely no interest or willingness to do any of this. She is still in the "Blame it all on Thinker and Run away" mode. I am moving ahead as if she is, at some point in time, going to decide to really work hard on herself. One of my fears, however, is that she never will.
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Are you really her friend right now? She is protecting herself and testing your changes. You are being watched.
I had this discussion with her a couple of days ago. I told her that I could see how much stress she was under and that as her friend I was concerned and worried about her. She replied "Are you my friend? I don't think we are friends."
At the time I was really surprised by this, since from my point of view and from what I feel, she is my friend. I am always surprised when I find out how truly distant she feels.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
