wow K, this is great, the penny is really dropping with him it seems. And I think you are right now to placate him, or fix it, because its NOT ok to spend your life at work/in bed.. like you say, he just needs to really feel it and know how much he is missing out on before he can take some action and do something about it. I cant wait until he does! Wont things be completely different then hey. You know what though, its going in the right direction at least.. he is noticing and also at the point of being able to verbalise how he is messing up and how bad he feels. So action is the next step (in the year 2050, lol !!!!) Ok, still not funny.

Hugs to you, Al xxx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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