OOOOOHHHHHH!!!!! Yes, that could make some difference in my admive. Shoot! Well, okay.....hummmm......I will think a minute and see if I need to back up and start over.
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My attorney says this is the weirdest divorce she has ever worked on.
I did misunderstand. I could not imagine why you would continue to live in the same house with the man who D you. But as for the advice I gave you......I stand by what I said. The reason is this, based on what i've read over time on the subject of MLC and how long it "can" take for a person to come through it......you may be looking up to five years before he wakes up. By then, he could be M to OW or do any other crazy thing that comes to his mind. He may take off oa a bike and never come back home. One never knows what a man in MLC may get in his head. I won't say it is a "fact" b/c it is strickly based on what I have read on the board, but it appears that it is harder for men in MLC to get through the process as quickly as women do. So much of a woman's is based on fantasy and her hormone changes, and I think a man's is somewhat different. I certainly am no authority on the subject!!
Anyway, MJ, I don't think what you have been doing has made any difference in the stitch, do you? I think you need a different plan of action. I will go back an tweet my last post since I know you are legally M.
As far making love with him.......I thought the two of you were sleeping in different rooms. Did he come back to the master bedroom or does he just show up when he needs sex from you? Or......is it "you" that goes to him needing sex?
I'll not print the entire last post, but may make some changes.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
