Fire's burning out...just smoldering

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He treats you that way because all the women in his life.. bend to his will. By the way.. she (MIL) has been a big part of it.

Bingo. Does that make it unfixable? He just goes and finds another woman who will bend to his will?

I do think so! He manipulated his mother, his girlfriends, his wife, now his OW, and when she starts to get a backbone he will move on to the next. Same pattern as my exh. But look at the caliber of women he will have to get. Most respectable women will look at his track record and not even go there..he will resort to the weak and lonely women. Maybe in lonely marriages etc.