Since the Bomb made me do that, it seems only fair to me that My Walk since the Bomb return the favor.
And I agree with you, if your goal is to end the marriage.
If you're still DBing, then I thought you were missing openings and opportunities, and I still do.
See, here's the rub (and I've been noodling starting a whole thread on this, because I think it goes right to the core of the challenge of DBing):
To sufficiently detach in order to get yourself to a place emotionally where a divorce isn't going to just DEVASTATE you, I think you have to get to a place emotionally where you may not be vulnerable enough to still save your marriage.
Does that make sense? In other words, I think LBSs do this "one foot on the platform, the other foot on the train" thing as a defense mechanism, and in so doing, we hurt our chances to save the marriage. One might even argue that the ONLY way to save the marriage is to make a Leap of Faith into the mosh pit that is the troubled marriage, and hope your WAS catches you (and/or God sustains you). But if you DO that, and it's not successful (and it's also a given DB maxim that we CAN'T control it), then your heart will be WAY more hurt when she says "I still want a divorce."
