KAW, can you say 'self-fulfilling prophecy'? If you assume that your W is going to strengthen her bond with OM, you'll start acting in a way that may lead to exactly that.
Repeat with me: 'I love her but I cannot control her. I can only control myself'
Works for me as a morning shower litany...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
