Ok, after reading again Rob's and BNDs posts, I want to say something. First of all I am happy for you, that you get this chance, that he seems "dedicated" to you, that you do share this deep connection you always talked aboutt.
I agree that things should not move very fast but I understand that the logistics may not leave you an option. As far as the "difficulties" you are facing, I am always worried when things look "normal" very quickly because this is what I've experienced with H and he always hid things under the carpet until we stumbled on them and hurt ourselves. So, by this, I am trying to say that I agree that you should be careful and try to deal with things slowly rather than pretend that nothing has happened. I just feel you need to do that AFTER a few weeks have gone by, in order for you guys to feel safe to open up to each other and deal with what needs to be dealt.
In my case, I tried to lay everything down and demand and request and kill the ghosts and not settle and, and, and, and... you know it hasnt worked either. I suggest you head for the middle ground. Hope my English is not very confusing, love M
