I think we circle and go our own completely different paths (and not really different), thousands of miles away from each other, but we both end up to the same destination/conclusion: we both didnt take care of US as needed in the past. And finding out there is LIFE that can be sweet and rewarding without involving Dan, H and their actions.
Boundaries... I think I will check out that one. Wonder how messed up I was during my marriage in this field as well
Anyway, enjoy your "you-time" and recharge the batteries. xxx K