We're on a roll here....I couldn't agree more. LOL! He is grown Renee. If he can't live by your rules and respect you, then it's time for him to get a taste of the real world......
...and no you don't need your xh's help with this one. YOU can handle this. YOUR house YOUR rules. It's that simple.
Trapt his dad will not let him live with him and son has no where else to go. I am sorry but it is sooo hard for me to just set him out with no where to go. I know I need to teach him a lesson. It would be one thing if his dad would let him live with him but his dad wants no part of the drama. Cant say i blame his dad, but that being said, he is his DAD. I was raised that no matter what your age you still respect your parents and your parents will always be there for you.