I was like a different person. My H could not believe it. We had always trusted each other with our lives. I broke that trust. I showed not interest in him. I did not cook for him, or wash his clotes or anything. I never went anywhere with him b/c I wanted free time on the comuter to contact OM. I never told my H a lie accept for withholding what I was doing by contacting OM. I did not discuss my feeling or anything else about OM. I couldn't. It felt wrong to do that. Your W and I are very different in that respect.
My wife still cooks and cleans the house... but it's for the benefit of the family. She only goes out with me when we are with the kids. She only discussed her feeling for the OM when we first were openly talking about the affair but now only when I initiate the R talks. If I didn't ask I don't think she would be so open to volunteering this information... so I'm to blame for having to hear about these details.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
