Some of you are here b/c you didn't SEE him/her. Don't make the same mistake by just finding another way to NOT see but passing it off as if you do.
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Bridge,
What if we are here b/c we admittedly didn't see him/her, want(ed) to find another way TO see, but realize that WE were too late and he/she no longer wants to be seen by us?
-AlexEN
Oh since you put it that way, then by all means.. force yourself on them when they no longer want it.. that is very desirable to a WAS.
It's their choice whether to share the 'new' them with the 'new' you.. just as it would be any 'new' woman in your life.
You don't have to like it, to accept it... it's their choice to not 'be' with the new you.
Would you be here bemoaning & "learning to technique" a woman turning you down after a date or two b/c she didn't trust/get/connect with you?
Why do you do it because your STBX-wife has made that choice?
If love is a choice & she has made it.. why do you argue with her? All that does is just proves her point... that you invalidate what she chooses, her choices don't matter to you and she is irrelevent... you make it all about you when you do that.
As Coach says, make the road back to you as smooth as possible.. arguing with her about her choices, is not doing that.
Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
