"Boy, she has him on a leash. He left early and BIL and I were talking. I said "wow, he's in a great mood." And , BIL said that he is always like that. He's mean to everyone. I told him that all I really wanted was to have a decent R with him as a parent, for K's sake. He told me that he didn't think that would ever happen, because he treats everyone like crap. And, according to H...everything is my fault. MIL also said that she doesn't understand why he treats me so poorly, but she thinks it's because of the guilt he feels. He has to be mean to me to justify the pain he caused me. I just told them that I had worked really hard to forgive him the initial hurt. But, it's hard to forgive someone who constantly calls me names and treats me so badly."
I feel like I should break that down some...
"Boy, she has him on a leash."
Part of me wants to ask the question.. did he feel like that before?
"He's mean to everyone."
Why is he mean to everyone? Is this an outcome of the "stitch" he finds himself in? Does that make him mean?
"He told me that he didn't think that would ever happen, because he treats everyone like crap. And, according to H...everything is my fault."
What happens when you point a finger.. and don't look at yourself?
"MIL also said that she doesn't understand why he treats me so poorly, but she thinks it's because of the guilt he feels. He has to be mean to me to justify the pain he caused me."
Ack.. something stuck in my throat... cough.. O look at that.. it was a big pile of poop.
He treats you that way because all the women in his life.. bend to his will. By the way.. she (MIL) has been a big part of it.
"But, it's hard to forgive someone who constantly calls me names and treats me so badly."
No it is not. You do it all the time. It's that heart of yours. One day.. you are gonna forgive him.. and draw a line in the sand. That is what I hope for. Even if I am not posting.
You smiling yet?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
