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Re: Holy Mother of Mojo Generation...
Thinker #1787667 06/23/09 02:36 AM
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
I think I have a lot of work to do on loving myself and building my self-esteem.


Can't do that by focusing on your H...


I here ya, Thinker...
Question- input?
Sara #1787670 06/23/09 02:38 AM
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Sara- Thanks, I am going to let it be until I have clarity.

H invited me out to something on a night that is normally his night to be with boys.

I said maybe I could get a babysitter and he could make up the time.

Should I-

A) Tell him we should stick to the schedule and I'll keep the plans I already have. We can go out another time.

B) Go with him

I know I need to figure it out, just curious what you all think.

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Re: Question- input?
aliveandkicking #1787678 06/23/09 02:45 AM
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Without really knowing what he is asking you to do, what the real sitch is, etc., my vote is...

Keep him hanging. Tell him you are sorry but you have plans tonight.

I know what it does to me when my W or another woman (from my pre-M days) does that to me... wink

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Re: Question- input?
Thinker #1787680 06/23/09 02:48 AM
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even though he feels like I was never available and always put the kids first?

I know, I know...
Re: Question- input?
aliveandkicking #1787729 06/23/09 03:43 AM
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Oh, it is for a few nights from now, so I have a little time.
Re: Question- input?
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I would get a babysitter and go. I am assuming that he is inviting you to something adult that would be fun. You need those kinds of things.
Re: Question- input?
Sara #1787822 06/23/09 11:49 AM
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Well when was the last time the two of you went out alone? I'm back now after my hiatus. Let me know what your thoughts are about my weekend when you have a chance.

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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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Re: Question- input?
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FWIW I agree with @Sara and (I presume) @stuck. If he extended the olive branch, it behooves you to take hold of it if only to demonstrate you're Living Your Walk.
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Ya, we've only had weird lunches that lead to weird conversations.

This will be fun and distracting.

However, one problem, I don't really like him. smirk
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Originally Posted By: stuck808
Well when was the last time the two of you went out alone? I'm back now after my hiatus. Let me know what your thoughts are about my weekend when you have a chance.


You talking to me? I'm going to try to take a look. Last I saw, you stuck to your hiatus! Awesome.
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