Lucky - where do we learn that if something great starts happening to us, we should immediately be suspicious?? I know I do that sometimes, too....but its really a strange thing and I wish I could stop it. Anyway - hell no, lightning isn't gonna strike you dead! Instead, here is your life in your near future:
*Baby = healthy, happy, progressing fabulously *Family relationships = improving *Your feelings about your own sexiness = beginning to rise *Your husband's feelings about your sexiness = rising exponentially *Your sex life = getting more frequent and better quality
In a couple of months, the new forecast will be even more sunny and bright yellow!
You must know... I mentally take these positive predictions that you grace upon me and tuck them in my heart. I read them as truth and let them come true.
Hi again, LG. Thanks for the good wishes on my post yesterday. I also posted to Cinco's thread yesterday. Shared a couple other things. H hasn't exactly opened up in ways that'd really melp a lot. He doean't verbally share intimacies. Any time I've mentioned it, he says "I don't talk". It really bothers me, more now that we've had the ED/LD issue. Maybe someday. Sooner rather than later, I hope. Any ideas to get him to talk during sex, let me know! Jayce
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.
Similar to what I recommended to Mamalala, I would say that you should just throw things out there without any expectation of him reciprocating. Not questions... Just little hot requests or statements on what you are liking at the moment. Rather than have a discussion about it, which will make him nervous because he probably has no idea what to do, SHOW him what you mean.
He may not reciprocate right away, but I think he eventually will because he will enjoy what you're saying and because he'll catch on that it's not really as scary as it seems.
I think talking dirty, for some, can be similar to public speaking... terrifying. What if I sound stupid? What if I say the wrong thing? What if she doesn't like me? So, I would diffuse that fear by *giving* for a little while until he is more comfortable with the idea.
Jayce, Lucky is right. For some, sex talk during the act is very uncomfortable and awkward. Mrs. Cinco hardly utters a word or a sound during ML. All I do is let her know when something feels really good to me that she is doing. "That feels nice." "I love the feel of your hands on me." Or simply "Mmmmmm".
I have tried to get her to talk more, tell me what she likes, It is still me asking questions "Do you like that?" and her giving "Uh huh" answers. But it has opened her to the idea of talking more even if it is still not much yet.
Just keep doing this that you like and soon he may like it too. I think Mrs. Cinco likes when I talk to her and lets her know she is pleasing me.
dee dee deetlee dee dee dee, dee dee dee deetlee dee....
So, H and I pursue some afternoon delight during the baby's nap yesterday. Hot and sunny, all the windows were open. Just as things are getting hot, here comes Mister Softee down the street. H starts joking about using the rhythm of the music. Then he shudders as he realizes that saying the words "Mister Softee" probably aren't good karma at the moment... We're trying to kiss and keep things going, trying not to let the laughter bring us completely out of the moment.
Mister Softee trails away into the distance, the laughter subsides, and it's back to biz-nezz. Good stuff. Just as I'm about to O......
....dee dee deetlee dee dee dee, dee dee dee deetlee dee...
Uncontrollable fits of laughter... This time much harder. Again, we're working to maintain our arousal and keep the passion salvageable through the comedy.
Softee fades into the distance again, and we take some time to recover and change positions. We climb that hill again and climax in unison at the peak.
And there you have it. The Mister Softee Method, Ladies and Gentlemen. Proven (well, an N of 1, at least) for longer, stronger, fun-filled lovemaking.
(And then H stared into my eyes and told me that I am "so beautiful" even though it looked like I had three eyes that close up. He also mentioned that if I want another baby, he is "right there" with me.)
LUCKY Girl
Lucky,
I am very glad to hear things are improving in your marriage.
It sounds like you and he are doing great.
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
Thanks, guys. I do talk a little. Not conversation, but a few words here such as you mentioned. We've had some goofy interruptions that resulted in laughing -(I hope not ever from the ice cream man tho; the song here is 'the little chicken hollered & the little chicken begged, etc. Goes on in your head for HOURS). Usually, tho he's silent. Maybe 'in the zone'? I'm sure he has no idea women can kinda lose their E so to speak at times & something like "I can hardly wait to...." would be a hot turn on. I'm not real nuts about telling him stuff like that cuz he takes it as criticism. If he ever gets into a couple of the books I've left lying around, he'd find out on his own. Meanwhile I've asked him many times over the years what turns him on & he never will say. I'm up for almost anything & he knows it, but never suggests or asks for something specific. At least he seems to be into it again. A 180 from last year. J
me: 66 H:60 2 adult sons 2 grandsons adult daughter deceased 5/05 me:Part time trainer H: plant suprv.
