Gonna Get Me A Mojo Hand

[Thinker]

AlexEN,

I just posted an update on my sitch after talking to an L.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1787437#Post1787437

Basically, if the info that the L gave me is accurate, and the WAS is dedicated to his or her lifestyle and his or her kids (as mine is to both), then the power equation is flipped around somewhat. I am not feeling any Schadenfreude, but if she want's to leave and I hold to my legal rights based on our family and financial situation then I can survive almost intact, but the results would definitely not meet my W's expectations.

As I said, I don't want any of this, and I also don't plan on rubbing her face in it, but is comforting to know that if the process starts, it's not all roses for the WAS and pain for the LBS.

[fb2]

I think all you guys have the dynamic nailed down now - filing the D is big power play - the trump card. It is a crude "brute force" technique, not an act of love. Many of these WAS have waited for the conditions to be "ripe" before playing that card. You, SP are calling her bluff, poker faced and she is hesitating and prefers Limboland because the money imbalance and the daunting prospect of finding an 'OM' do indeed have an emotional effect. If you were the 'provider' or she has on OM you will hurt. But also listen to K - the best advice is from those who realize their mistakes. And many salutes to @coach and @Jody for superior Dbing technique.

[Thinker]

Hi FB,

Do you have a thread somewhere? Just wondering about your sitch.

[Greek]

And many salutes to @coach and @Jody for superior Dbing technique.

"technique"

Boy, I hate this terminology.

It caused a lot of discord initially in the Coach household.

Reminds me of the other 't' word...trickery.

Y'all...it's not "technique". It is learning what you missed about the person to whom you tied your future.

Beeeeeeeee careful. Some of you are here b/c you didn't SEE him/her. Don't make the same mistake by just finding another way to NOT see but passing it off as if you do.

Ahem.
Cheers ~~~

[AlexEN]

Greek,

If you have a chance, can you stop in at my thread?

Would love to hear your take on e-mail I've drafted to WAW...

Thanks,

AlexEN

[Forrest Gump]

SP...

I have a question. It is a simple one.

What do you think about all the "thought's" coming at you from "here" (Db.com)?

[Greek]

SP...

I have a question. It is a simple one.

That ain't simple.

...what????

Cheers ~~~~

[Forrest Gump]

"That ain't simple."

I will assure you it is.. Simple.

[Bridgestone]

Some of you are here b/c you didn't SEE him/her. Don't make the same mistake by just finding another way to NOT see but passing it off as if you do.

here, here!!

[Greek]

What do you think about all the "thought's" coming at you from "here" (Db.com)?

Coach wants to know (forgot his password pixie dust) if you are really riding your unicorn?

He gets ya!