"Well, if you'll have the pier in and the boats/waverunners in, then we'll tell them early afternoon, and if not, then it's more early evening cookout and fireworks. You tell me what works." (NOW FOLKS, THAT WAS ALMOST VERBATIM AND NOT DELIVERED WITH ANY KIND OF TONE, EXPECTATION, ETC...) And, H gets PISSED! I ask him what he's getting so mad about. It's a time for an invite, not an argument! He says, "FINE (dont ya love that? LOL), YOU take the boys to their soccer games and camp tomorrow, I AM PUTTING THE F*CKING PIER IN!" I told him that I didn't ask him to put it in, just asked if he thought it would be so I knew when to tell people to come! (GOD!) I tell him I understand it's not going to be easy due to the fact that it was flooded out last year, and will be a project, and he's only home a few days a week, and that's why I don't really care." (Between us DBer's, I ONLY CARE TO KNOW WTF THE REASON IS THAT HE DOESN"T WANT THE PIERS OR OUR BOATS/WAVERUNNERS IN) He says, "if you say another word about it, I'm leaving." (NICE!) I tell him to stay comfortable, as I'm going to go sit in my car in the driveway and scream into the silence for awhile.
I've got a few things here that I'll point out...
first off...is this the EXACT CONVO..exactly how it came off..if so..then...
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I tell him I would, and asked what time he thought I should tell everyone to come. He says he doesn't know. So, I say, "Well, if you'll have the pier in and the boats/waverunners in, then we'll tell them early afternoon, and if not, then it's more early evening cookout and fireworks. You tell me what works."
I believe he took this as you telling him the pier needed to be in..in his fog..he heard.."well, we can't have it early because you don't have the pier in"
so he gets pissed..he took it as nagging..
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And, H gets PISSED! I ask him what he's getting so mad about. It's a time for an invite, not an argument!
and then I bet this made him more pissed..you dismissed his anger..
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"FINE (dont ya love that? LOL), YOU take the boys to their soccer games and camp tomorrow, I AM PUTTING THE F*CKING PIER IN!" I told him that I didn't ask him to put it in, just asked if he thought it would be so I knew when to tell people to come! (GOD!) I tell him I understand it's not going to be easy due to the fact that it was flooded out last year, and will be a project, and he's only home a few days a week, and that's why I don't really care."
if you understood that it would be a project and he only has so much time left to get this big project in..then why mention the pier and boats..why not just plan it later?? If you really do not care..then why throw all that in?? maybe deep down you do care when the party is??
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I tell him to stay comfortable, as I'm going to go sit in my car in the driveway and scream into the silence for awhile.
ahh well..at least you got away from each other..
as I've said before, "we are our own worst enemies"
