Newbie - first post and ?s

[givingitmyall]

Absoultely NOT. The kids take precedence over any of his bad decisions. NO EXCEPTIONS.

He will probably act more immature and angry before he gets better. Stick to your guns.

[Faith2010]

Thanks for the reinforcement! I thought I made the right choice...

This sounds bad but watching him in his tantrum actually cracks me up!

[Faith2010]

Karma is gonna bite me in the @ss for my last post!

[aliveandkicking]

It takes time but you have to try to work through your fear so you can be authentic and secure in your actions.

Karma is not going to bite you in the a**. You've suffered enough, you need a little levity.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Told H boundaries had to be set and to not talk to 'her' around S. I said it does not set a good example for S. H shook his head, sighed, and said "Whatever!" Now he's acting like a 3 year old in a temper tantrum, making sure he does not "brush" me as we walked past each other, shutting doors forcefully etc...

Okay, my dear friends, did I make a mistake in what I said?

C'mon, you know the answer to that already, Ash. NO, you didn't make a mistake! Why, because he's acting like a petulant child???

Here's a great piece of advice I can give you:

STOP acting from a position of "Will this make him MAD? How will him being mad make ME feel?" -- and start operating from a position of "In every situation, DO THE RIGHT THING. Do the thing that God Himself would have me do if He were standing right here in front of me."

With THAT as your standard, is there really any question as to whether or not you did the right thing in insisting that your husband not discuss his adulterous girlfriend in front of your son???

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Scr*w that. Let him have a tantrum. I've been so timid about setting boundaries and it hasn't helped.

It never does.

[givingitmyall]

STOP acting from a position of "Will this make him MAD? How will him being mad make ME feel?" -- and start operating from a position of "In every situation, DO THE RIGHT THING. Do the thing that God Himself would have me do if He were standing right here in front of me."

That is a great way of thinking about it. I am gonna steal that and use it. Thanks.

[Faith2010]

"STOP acting from a position of "Will this make him MAD? How will him being mad make ME feel?" -- and start operating from a position of "In every situation, DO THE RIGHT THING. Do the thing that God Himself would have me do if He were standing right here in front of me."

With THAT as your standard, is there really any question as to whether or not you did the right thing in insisting that your husband not discuss his adulterous girlfriend in front of your son???"

Puppy - you definitely have a unique way of putting things and I greatly appreciate it. I feel stupid for even asking if I was right because after the way you put it, it is plain to see I was. Thank you Puppy.

[Faith2010]

Giving - I also love the way Puppy put it. It will be my standard from here forward.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Ashlee, it's always easier to see when you're not in the thick of it.