bro it's been a while since I've commented your thread, life is busy, sometimes too busy, plus there are alot of newcomers who seem to be in pretty bad shape, have to spread the "love" around ;-)
I looked at your partial list and if you don't mind I will show you how I would prioritize that list because I think it makes a difference and I will start with the #1 quality you need to have:
1. CONFIDENCE
When you're confident, you are strong, you respect yourself (finally), you love yourself (like you always should have), when you are confident you will live life in the direction that you want to (leading) and those that have confidence in you will follow. When you're confident, you are strong and you will provide the security to those around you to trust you and this will be the safe place where good things happen in the relationship. When you are confident you are naturally competent, you'll get whatever needs to be done regardless if you know how or not: you will be focusing on the goal instead of the obstacles infront of that goal. When you're confident in yourself, you are confident in your strength: you will know that being fair to others means being fair to yourself first, be honest with yourself first and never allowing yourself to feel shortchanged in any situation and when you are truly confident in yourself, confident in your strength, abilities and direction in your life you can't help but being friendly to everyone because fear won't be gripping your life anymore and you will be relaxed enough to enjoy your life and allow the right people into it.
