I had suspected something all along but I did not know how or what to approach. I snooped on her forum talk. Devastation followed. Written proof of emotional affairs and 1 or 2 cybersex adventures. I confronted her immediately. She stated that if I made her choose, second life would win.
OK then, "see ya."
At that moment, you blinked, and gave her all the power.
Did you just change your username? Your story sounds remarkably similar to another poster here recently.