Quote: What if you started keeping a journal...left it laying around with evidence of your interest in someone other than your wife?
... and from LL:
Quote: Well maybe not the making up of interest in someone else, but more an actual written journal of your feelings and thoughts. Including those you stated in one of your last posts about not staying around forever if CAW's fantasy with om doesn't end. She may not read this bb so a written journal may peak her interest and may just get her thinking with a more rational mind.
Ya know ... with all you gals checking in on me here ... I probably could bring out this thead to employ both suggestions.
Well wouldn't go that far ... I would certainly be tipping my hand as to snooping in her journal and such... ... but does bring up something I haven't mentioned yet ... I mentioned before that CAW is uncomfortable with me staying in contact here, so I, for the most part, have stopped posting from home (except when I sneak on after she falls asleep), because work has been "interfering" with keeping up on these boards, I have taken to printing out a couple of threads at a time and taking them home to read while CAW is sleeping or not around. Over the weekend I was reading Pam's thread in the "reading" room when I put it down to take care of other matters and forgotten about it when I walked out. A few minutes later I remember I left it in there and went back to retrieve it to discover CAW sitting on the "reading" chair giving it a once over. She looked up with a puzzled expression, but I knew she was not pleased. Of course, I felt like I was caught with my hand in the cookie jar, and got defensive about it. Lately, she been keeping more to herself, but who know how of that can be because of this.
Journalling ... that would be a 180 for sure. I've typed more words on this board than I have done in all the years before. I wonder...
from Sue:
Quote: KAW.so sorry...I did not mean to doubt your feelings....and am sorry it brought back too many thoughts........just know that I am thinking about you...
No worries ... One thing I've gotten pretty good at is bouncing back from those funks ... they usually don't last to long anymore ... and it definately helps to know there are others out there that are concerned about me.
Shiny, I know its always tough on the offspring no matter how old they are. LL, even mention how tough it was on her and that was around the time she was getting married, but when they are old enough to start living their own lives then there are some issues that would be no longer a concern, such as custody, visitation, child support, etc... and how that affects the children too. I won't be the one choosing to put D10 thru that!
Zoo: Feel free to pop in anytime ... while I can't offer any baked goodies or a fine wine like some others around here ... I BBQ as much as possible and always have some beers in the frig ... anyone up for some steak?!
Cathy: Thanks for the insight on keeping commitments ... I think CAW does some of that thinking too. Good for me to keep in mind.
Pam & Cindy: Thanks too for dropping by and giving your support ...
... but does bring up something I haven't mentioned yet ... I mentioned before that CAW is uncomfortable with me staying in contact here, so I, for the most part, have stopped posting from home (except when I sneak on after she falls asleep), because work has been "interfering" with keeping up on these boards, I have taken to printing out a couple of threads at a time and taking them home to read while CAW is sleeping or not around. Over the weekend I was reading Pam's thread in the "reading" room when I put it down to take care of other matters and forgotten about it when I walked out. A few minutes later I remember I left it in there and went back to retrieve it to discover CAW sitting on the "reading" chair giving it a once over. She looked up with a puzzled expression, but I knew she was not pleased. 
Of course, I felt like I was caught with my hand in the cookie jar, and got defensive about it. 
