Oh my gosh she is soo much like me, if my friends would read this they would assume you were talking about me!! I know this doesn't help, but just wanted you to know that there are other people out there who can't follow through on thier commitments.
Cathy, thanks for dropping by and lettin me know that CAW is not the only with this trait. I will try to keep that in mind in hopes to be more understanding.
Hey KAW...was just going back and didn't see this when you originally posted. First, I agree with everyone else here you are a great guy! CAW doesn't know what she's thinking obviously.
Quote: However, you didn't make any mention as to why you think you have so much trouble keeping commitments. I would like to hear your insights on such.
Because it sounds like such a good idea at the time, yes, yes count me in and then as the day approaches, I have second thoughts. Part of it is because I just wanted to be by myself and not have to relate to anybody or anything. I think it was part depression. Now I am totally opposite, I'm out there doing things all the time and really haven't backed out of anything since my H left...no wonder he's having second thoughts.... H liked to do things and I never wanted to join in. He shure noticed after I left "why didn't you want to do that when I was here" I've heard a number of times..
KAW.so sorry...I did not mean to doubt your feelings....and am sorry it brought back too many thoughts........just know that I am thinking about you...
KAW I wish that I had some insight to offer you that hasn't already been said. You have offered me some excellent advice on my sitch and like the others I think you are one awesome fella I will do my best to keep an eye on your sitch and jump in when I have something more productive to offer
Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
If it's any consolation at all...you sound so very grounded within yourself....Loving your W, yet knowing that IF she cannot overcome this escapist craving for OM, and commit FULLY to you...it's NOT enough.
And so kind to think of D10...but do you think it's really easier for them at 18? My niece had to live through her parents rather amicable separation in Aug '02...(She's 18 now)...although she "seemed" to be handling it well...she was quite torn up...her faith in M, and faithfulness and true love are shaken.
Then to top it off when she asked her mom why they got married in the first place, my SIL told her it was because she was pregnant with said niece!!!
So now the poor kid feels responsible for their doomed M, and them "sticking it out" in relative misery for so long.
Just another POV.
What a downer! Sorry dude ...you need cheering up right now!!
What if you started keeping a journal...left it laying around with evidence of your interest in someone other than your wife?
Feel free to smack that idea down...just didn't want to not put it out there in case it was something that might help!
Hugs!
actually I think that's a great idea. Well maybe not the making up of interest in someone else, but more an actual written journal of your feelings and thoughts. Including those you stated in one of your last posts about not staying around forever if CAW's fantasy with om doesn't end. She may not read this bb so a written journal may peak her interest and may just get her thinking with a more rational mind. In other words, if she thinks you'll always be there for her there is no reason for her to "wake up" and see her r with om for what it is.
Quote: if she thinks you'll always be there for her there is no reason for her to "wake up" and see her r with om for what it is.
This is the way I felt about our M and my H, that he'd be around forever, no matter how I treated him..oh but sometimes it just don't work that way now does it?
H liked to do things and I never wanted to join in. He shure noticed after I left "why didn't you want to do that when I was here" I've heard a number of times..
...you need cheering up right now!!
