Well, here we go. I've been married to my wife for 13 years. *I* thought they were pretty good ones. It's her 2nd marriage and my 3rd. That story is for another day.
In 1999, we both attempted to quit smoking and she had a substantial weight gain. Me being me, made a big deal out of it. Not too smart. Although that rift was smoothed over, the scars remained.
Fast forward to 2006 and her discovery of Second Life. A seemingly harmless alternate online world. She found escape there from what she says was a very insensitive husband. She's probably right.
2 weeks ago, we had the weight argument again, this time we were each other's targets. The ILYBILINWY comment came out along with several "I hate you's" and I would divorce you if it wasn't such a financial disaster. Her online gaming time skyrocketed.
I had suspected something all along but I did not know how or what to approach. I snooped on her forum talk. Devastation followed. Written proof of emotional affairs and 1 or 2 cybersex adventures. I confronted her immediately. She stated that if I made her choose, second life would win.
After consultation woth Jody (she rocks) We started an immediate version of LRT while still living with your spouse. W and I still share a bed, not closely, still talk and laugh but the partnership and security of the relationship is gone.
She has stated she will go to couples counselling as 13 years is hard to unwind especially with tangled assets. Thank heavens the children are all grown.
Me (the dummy) 50 son - 20 Her 47 son - 23 and daughter 20
No children of the marriage.
I'm not sure if I'm screaming for help, crying out loud or ready to give up.
