I would love to have my husband back, but that would have to be the one he promised me when we met. The one who was going to keep his promises and didn't lie to me.
You've said exactly how I am feeling. I want the man I married back - not the man he has turned into in the past few years! I want the man who shared my goals and dreams, who cared that we BOTH got what we wanted out of life, who promised that he would support me if I supported him. Who enjoyed attending ballet and theater and art shows and symphonies and book groups and all that kind of thing with me and then discussing them over dinner afterward. Who was always easygoing and let everything roll off of him. Who was always very responsible even if somewhat forgetful. This person he is now, this incredibly driven corporate executive who spends what little time he has off drinking, gambling, womanizing, and playing with his "boy toys" (Harley etc), I don't even know him! I still don't understand why at 33 years old he all of a sudden decided to give up his cushy 30 hours a week and great benefits job as a university professor to work at a 100+ hour a week corporate job that I know is going to drive him into an early grave - how does a type B just turn into a type A overnight? 'Cause that's exactly what it seems like has happpened to him.
