Okay, need to know what ya'll think of this. Next time H wants to have sex, I am going to tell him No - not until OW is out of his life. Is that the right thing to do?????
It is if that is a boundary of personal integrity for you. It's an intensely personal decision, but the medical risks alone, I would think, would make it questionable at best. I'm a guy tho. Most WOMEN say, "How do you feel about it after you do it?" If you feel used, then it's probably not emotionally healthy for you. If you feel like you are just two adults, having some fun with no strings attached (after all, you ARE married), then some people can pull it off.
Other than the medical risks (there are threads on the forums RIGHT NOW about STDs, sadly), my concern would be that you wouldn't be able to sufficiently emotionally detach if you ML with him. It muddles up your thinking.
Most WOMEN say, "How do you feel about it after you do it?" If you feel used, then it's probably not emotionally healthy for you. If you feel like you are just two adults, having some fun with no strings attached (after all, you ARE married), then some people can pull it off.
