Well, today H tells me that when he called sponsor last night, the guy told him not to call anymore and quit on him. I am not surprised after listening to convo between them the night before and previous nights. This guy is tough and I suspect reacting to the fact that his other sponsoree relasped recently. So as far as I can tell, the sponsor has a problem and is not flexible.
I believe my H really wants sobriety. He is doing what he can. I do think that the advice not to reconcile with me has undermine his connection to AA people, but he is still going to meetings. I understand the concerns of others, but there are some serious changes at home thus it will not be the same place he left. These changes are not because of him and would have occurred anyway.
I also have not had a problem saying no to him before now about reconciling, I waited until I heard things and saw behaviors that confirmed real change. When I came to this site, I set up goals and he is meeting everyone of them without my telling him that these goals exist. I think that tells me something about his awareness and desire to stay M.
I also want to say that we are having good discussions in light of past memories and behavior. He has a lot to deal with, and I see that I have the same to deal with but so far, we are doing it. I will also remind readers that both of us have a strong spiritual and prayer life that helps us to cope with daily living. But I appreciate the input.
I am curious how H will handle the meeting and seeing his ex-sponsor tonight. Said he would call.
