Okay, I got this lovely little e-mail from og today, talking about my kids. I would post it but it has everyone's names in it. In a nutshell- How she and J are so happy and as soon as our d is final (July 7th) that the four of them (they and my kids) will be so happy together and she can't wait to get to know them better. She also can't wait for her and J to come to my d's birthday party (which is 3 days after the d is final), and what does she want so that they can get it for her???
And that I have brought on all of this drama.
I need something. Meds, shots, yoga, I dunno. An 18yo is ready to be a happy little family with my children. I just ignored it. I have to remember I am 32, not 18. Jeeeezzzzz.
Perspective is important SoCo.
Remember when you were 18(ish)?
What kinds of things were your peers really into? Getting married and settling down? Providing for a family?
I doubt it.
Most likely it was where they were going to go to college and/or where the next party was.....
And while it might be flattering to have the attentions of a "mature" 30-something man, I have a feeling that she will slowly realize that "playing house" isn't so much fun anymore when she has to come down to earth and figure out:
Why do we have to stay home so much? Why can't we just go out and party?
Why should I work so hard to support these kids that aren't even mine?
We NEVER go out and do ANYTHING anymore!
I'm sick and tired of all this responsibility.
Do you see why this won't work? Why it CAN'T work?
There is a reason why you don't see a lot of successful marriages between 18y.o.'s and 30-somethings......
Because it DOESN'T work.
To quote one of my favorite T.V. characters... Kane (Young Grasshopper) from the old T.V. show "Kung Fu"
"He will be his own undoing."
I know it's hard, esp. w/ little miss starry-eyed doe stoking the fires with her email, but don't let yourself be rattled by this. The joke is on them.
Time is on YOUR side.
(And mommy will ALWAYS be mommy, and can NEVER be replaced...you can bet your bottom dollar on that!)
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
