Newbie - first post and ?s

[Faith2010]

Thanks to all of you for the support. I am still stuck on contacting the OW's H...I do agree he has a right to know but I also know my H will flip.

Mishka - I appreciate you taking the time to read my post and responding. I am doing well on not rising to the bait thus far. You are 100% right on finding the person I was before. Many parts of her were lost along the way. Some I have recovered but there are still pieces to find. I need to work on the hobby bit, been mulling it over to figure out what I would like to do. I think I can pull off the mysterious stuff, my first go round will be this coming weekend.

Gardener - to answer your question about today, it was good until 5pm when I spoke with S. S indicated H was not home. It is H's day off but he was working his 2nd job (landscape stuff - makes his own hours). S said H left late because he was talking to OW. I called H who said he was still at job. I indicated I was working late and would be another hour. H said I never told him. I said S knew. I expressed my concern for S being home alone on H's days off. H replied he had his 2nd job last summer. I indicated there needs to be more supervision of S when he is off. H said - Yeah, S should be in a camp. H did not work this much last summer. As I indicated in an earlier post - H spends NO time with S and takes NO RESPONSIBILITY. (I am sending S to my parents' house this Friday as a result). S texts at 5:30pm to say H home and talking on phone with OW. Needless to say I am ticked off! I get home and H is in car, getting ready to go pick up dinner (supposedly - still not back and place is 5 minutes away). H says to me "Hi love. How are you?" WTF? PSYCHO!

Okay, need to know what ya'll think of this. Next time H wants to have sex, I am going to tell him No - not until OW is out of his life. Is that the right thing to do?????