Wow no change. I have been good and haven't attempted any contact. Doesn't mean I don't fight the urge though.
I am kind of surprised and hurt that she hasn't contacted me. It's only been a week but we have talked every day since we met except a few times but not this long.
I will try to keep on task and avoid backslides. Should I stay dark still? My gut tells me yes.
On another note the XW and I are getting along well and I must admit some feelings are still there. Just what I need.....
Oh the silence in the house is unbearably loud!
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
Now I get a text a little after 3:30 am this morning from GF.
"Hi stranger". She went on to say a guy came by work to do some work that I've done in the past there. Talked about what he charged compared to the amount of time spent at it. She asked "aren't you suppose to do that"?
I wanted to hear from her so bad and talk to her but I'm at a complete loss as what to say or do.
I've messed up in the past and now I'm mortified.
Help!
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
Hi Cire - reading about your GF leads me to believe that you are a man on a string - a yoyo. Back in June when she asked you to leave because a guy was stopping by smells like maybe it was her H. The depression. The meth. The lies and deception. To be quite frank, she does not sound like a stable person to have a long term relationship with.
I know you say you love her, but why? She keeps casting you away and reeling you back. Do you deserve to be treated like that - no. What do you mean by you've messed up in the past?
I dont know where you live in Washington, but I do know that there are probably at least a couple hundred thousand other single gals your age in the state and many of them would be a better catch than what I am reading about your GF. Sorry about being so blunt, but I think you can do better.
I have a GF for the last 8 months and so far she seems like a very nice girl. Like any relationship, there are some minor red flags, but I am taking it slow with an open mind. I've got the attitude that only I can make myself happy. Having a relationship is just frosting on the cake of life. Try to detach some more and be happy on your own for a while.
One book you might consider reading is "Venus and Mars on a Date" by John Gray.
Hi Cire, I don't expect you to go into a long lengthy post to describe what happened between you and your ex-wife, but could you tell us what you "learned" from the experience? How can you apply what you learned in that stitch with the one you have now?
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Since the website changed i haven't been able to post from my blackberry. First time i've had a chance to get online.
Kerry don't worry about being blunt, i need to hear it.
Sandi, what happended was some bad choices by me and then letting her run over me with the guilt. I have since had a chance to get an apology from her for her poor behavior, albeit 2 years later.
Trying to be more consistant now as opposed to my jekyl and hyde that gets me in trouble with the fairer sex.
Update, a couple weeks back I took another woman to the bar where my XGF works and decided to see if she'd get jealous. After many drinks and some prodding the other woman and I began making out in the bar. I know- very high school and childish.
It sure worked and was she pissed!! I got hell for that and now I have know idea what she's thinking. We began to talk a bit randomnly as she would text me and ask questions and make accusations as to what I was doing.
After about a week and a half I did see her again and it was cordial. Then out of the blue she shows up at my house one morning. Some small talk happening but I wasn't sure what the reason was. It became apparant after we ended up in the bedroom.
Can anyone explain women to me?
We are talking a bit but it is really weird and it feels like she's pulling back, so i'm trying to give her space.
I do seem to be my own worst enemy at times.
cire
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
*********************************** An Old Italian man lived alone in New Jersey. He wanted to plant his annual tomato garden, but it was very difficult work, as the ground was hard. His only son, Vincent, who used to help him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament:
Dear Vincent, I am feeling pretty sad, because it looks like I won't be able to plant my tomato garden this year. I'm just getting too old to be digging up a garden plot. I know if you were here, my troubles would be over. I know you would be happy to dig the plot for me, like in the old days. Love, Papa
A few days later he received a letter from his son: Dear Pop, Don't dig up that garden. That's where the bodies are buried. Love, Vinnie
At 4 AM the next morning, FBI agents and local police arrived and dug up the entire area without finding any bodies. They apologized to the old man and left.
That same day the old man received another letter from his son: Dear Pop, Go ahead and plant the tomatoes now. That's the best I could do under the circumstances. Love you, Vinnie
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This will boggle your mind, I know it did mine! The year is 1908. One hundred years ago. What a difference a century makes! Here are some statistics for the Year 1908 : ************ ********* ********* ******
The average life expectancy was 47 years.
Only 14 percent of the homes had a bathtub.
Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
There were only 8,000 cars and only 144 miles Of paved roads.
The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower!
The average wage in 1908 was 22 cents per hour.
The average worker made between $200 and $400 per year .
A competent accountant could expect to earn $2000 per year, A dentist $2,500 per year, a veterinarian between $1,500 and $4,000 per year, and a mechanical engineer about $5,000 per year.
More than 95 percent of all births took place at HOME .
Ninety percent of all doctors had NO COLLEGE EDUCATION! Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which Were condemned in the press AND the government as 'substandard. '
Sugar cost four cents a pound.
Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen.
Coffee was fifteen cents a pound.
Most women only washed their hair once a month, and used Borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from Entering into their country for any reason.
Five leading causes of death were: 1. Pneumonia and influenza 2. Tuberculosis 3. Diarrhea 4. Heart disease 5. Stroke
The American flag had 45 stars.
The population of Las Vegas , Nevada, was only 30!!!!
Crossword puzzles, canned beer, and ice tea Hadn't been invented yet.
There was no Mother's Day or Father's Day.
Two out of every 10 adults couldn't read or write. Only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school.
Marijuana, heroin, and morphine were all available over the counter at the local corner drugstores. Back then pharmacists said, 'Heroin clears the complexion, gives buoyancy to the mind,regulates the stomach and bowels, and is, in fact, a perfect guardian of health.' ( Shocking? DUH! )
Eighteen percent of households had at least One full-time servant or domestic help.
There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE ! U.S.A. !
Now I forwarded this from someone else without typing It myself, and sent it to you and others all over Canada & U.S.A Possibly the world, in a matter of seconds!
Try to imagine what it may be like in another 100 years. IT STAGGERS THE MIND!!!!!!!!!!!
Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
> > >> This is very clever. >> Teachers may especially enjoy this one! >> >> :. Can you read these right the first time? >> 1) The bandage was wound around the wound. >> 2) The farm was used to produce produce. >> 3) The dump was so full that it had to refuse more refuse. >> 4) We must polish the Polish furniture. >> 5) He could lead if he would get the lead out. >> 6) The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert. >> 7) Since there is no time like the present, he thought it was >> time to present the present. >> 8) A bass was painted on the head of the bass drum. >> 9) When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes. >> 10) I did not object to the object. >> 11) The insurance was invalid for the invalid. >> 12) There was a row among the oarsmen about how to row. >> 13) They were too close to the door to close it. >> 14) The buck does funny things when the does are present. >> 15) A seamstress and a sewer fell down into a sewer line. >> 16) To help with planting, the farmer taught his sow to sow. >> 17) The wind was too strong to wind the sail. >> 18) Upon seeing the tear in the painting, I shed a tear. >> 19) I had to subject the subject to a series of tests. >> 20) How can I intimate this to my most intimate friend? >> >> Let's face it, English is a crazy language. There is no egg in eggplant, >> nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English >> muffins weren't invented in England nor French fries in France. >> Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren't sweet, are meat. >> We take English for granted, but if we explore its paradoxes, we find >> that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig >> is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig. >> >> And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing, grocers don't >> groce and hammers don't ham? If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn't >> the plural of booth, beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? >> One index, 2 indices? If teachers taught, why didn't preachers praught? >> Doesn't it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend? If you >> have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what >> do you call it? >> >> Sometimes I think all the English speakers should be committed to an >> asylum for the verbally insane. In what language do people recite at a >> play and play at a recital, ship by truck and send cargo by ship, have >> noses that run and feet that smell? >> >> How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and >> a wise guy are opposites? You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a >> language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you >> fill in a form by filling it out, and in which an alarm goes off by >> going on. >> >> English was invented by people, not computers, and it reflects the >> creativity of the human race, which, of course, is not a race at all. >> That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the >> lights are out, they are invisible. >> >> PS. - Why doesn't Buick rhyme with quick? >> >> You lovers of the English language might enjoy this: >> >> There is a two-letter word that perhaps has more meanings than any other >> two-letter word, and that is UP. >> It's easy to understand UP, meaning toward the sky or toward the top of >> the list, but when we awaken in the morning, why do we wake UP? At a >> meeting, why does a topic come UP ? Why do we speak UP and why are the >> officers UP for election and why is it UP to the secretary to write UP a >> report ? >> >> We call UP our friends. We use something to brighten UP a room, polish >> UP the silver, warm UP the leftovers, and clean UP the kitchen. We lock >> UP the house and some guys fix UP the old car . At other time s the >> little word has real special meaning. People stir UP trouble, line UP >> for tickets, work UP an appetite, and think UP excuses. To be dressed is >> one thing but to be dressed UP is special .. >> >> And this UP is confusing: A drain must be opened UP because it is >> stopped UP . We open UP a store in the morning but we close it UP at >> night. >> >> We seem to be pretty mixed UP about UP! To be knowledgeable about the >> proper uses of UP , look the word UP in the dictionary. In a >> desk-sized dictionary, it takes UP almost 1/4th of the page and can add >> UP to about thirty definitions. If you are UP to it, you might >> try building = < /SPAN>UP a list of the many ways UP is used. It will >> takeUP a lot of your time, but if you don't give UP , you may wind UP >> with a hundred or more. >> When it threatens to rain, we say it is clouding UP When the sun comes >> out we say it is clearing UP. When it rains, it wets the earth and >> often messes thin gs UP >> When it doesn't rain for awhile, things dry UP >> >> We could go on, but I'll wrap it UP, for now my time is UP! Time to >> shut UP ! >> Oh... one more thing: What is the first thing you do in the morning and >> the last thing you do at night? >> U-P >> and the word sugar has no 'h' is that so? >> sure. . .. . .. >>
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