Did the text have to do with the kids? If so, can it wait? Ask her if it can wait if you cannot tell by the message...b/c you are at work and don't need to bother with things that can wait, while you are getting paid for work. (You want this job to be extended until you find a new one, right? So you can't "coast", correct?) Surely your w will understand your ambitions... ( yes a 180'!!)
And is she really inviting you that often that this is a "problem"? If it doesn't have to do with the kids, why would you accept an invite? She is not going to ask you over for dinner to make a move or "see what happens" Kevin. If and when she is ready to do some work on the R, she'll FIRST stop talking about her wonderful single life and OM and all the things she forgot to invite you to...so you won't be confused by it like you are now. To me, her behavior is NOT confusing, it's uncaring. And rude. It is not moving towards a reconciliation but at best, it's not moving away from it. She's happy where she is right now, it seems...
So you'll know if the time comes for some "R" talk, b/c there will be BIG flags that tell you something is different --like when she stops all the "single girl" talk. Til then, what is with all the worry and projecting about future problems that might not ever happen? Stay in the now and work on your life and it'll be better.
Don't futurize so much -- as it just fills your days with worry and fear, instead of faith and joy and gratitude. J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
