as @Thinker reminded another poster recently, should generally only be considered as a welcome step IF both parties are receptive to wanting to work on the marriage.
Many couples go to Retrouvaille with one person wanting to save the marriage and one wanting out. The only expectation is that both participants are "willing and open"...the WAS does not have to want to work on the marriage just not go in closed minded (although I've read some interesting stories about that too).
