This is a huge warning flag and jumped out at me. Sounds like a load o' b.s. to me.
Who pays for his cellphone?
Puppy
He pays for his own... It was in my name because I had the work discount. He switched carriers a few months ago because he became EXTREMELY frustrated with the one that we were using. Basically, he had a useless cell phone last year when he was at his national guard annual training, while everybody else in his unit could get reception. Ever since then he's hated AT&T. That was about a year ago...
AT&T is really not that great in our area, but I'm not a big fan of change, so I haven't done much research. A few months ago, his AT&T phone stopped working properly, and he tried to get it fixed, get a new phone, talk to customer service, etc. but nobody would do anything for him because the plan was in my name. He went to the verizon store and got a new phone, under my name, but he's been frustrated because he can't even get his username and password without me making the phone call.
The phone has been a source of contention between us over the past few months because as we really started having issues because of his schedule and his need to go to the gym almost every night, along with my hysterical sobbing fits about how lonely I was, I would comb the bills and look at how much time he was spending talking to his (guy) friend compared to talking to me, then throw accusations at him about it. Guy friend was going through recent breakup with his GF, also has a toddler girl, probably has NOT been the best influence in our situation.
Since he pays for it, I don't look at it anymore, and he doesn't even live with me now, there is no point to me being on the account. Letting go of the rope...
I know it is a red flag, but I honestly believe if there was someone else in the picture, he would have admitted it after three months of hysterical accusations (that really, really p*ssed him off).
If he had something "better" lined up, I don't think he'd even bother with counseling. He was 1000% against it two months ago when I first brought it up (before I was DB'ing and had lots of "wrong" behaviors).
Me - 30, H - 32 T - 10, M - 6, D - 1 DD#1 - 4, DD#2 - 2 on/off OW 4/09 - sometime Summer 2010 (Told me about OW 4/10) Separated 6/11/09, divorced 8/4/10, trying again 9/2011
