Sorry things are the way they are, but they are the MLC way.
Hope your son finishes full prescription and gets well soon. Before I saw that your L was going to start the process on shed permit, I was going to ask how tearing it down would affect the sale ... and would that be cheaper than permits?
Its not like you are going to use it or see it again. I don't mean that badly, but if you are going to move forward with the sale it might be a good question for the buyers. How would they feel about not having it, or having a $1,000 allowance to get their own permits after sale? May not matter now if the L is moving ahead.
Your X would LOVE to have that house to hold over your head every time he disagreed with 'weekends' or 'tuition', etc. He could be the BiPolarActionHero. In one moment he is great for letting you stay there, and then Satan in your face for not allowing him to control schedules and bills. Cut him loose!
You are holding up so much better than you would have a year ago, and you are becoming so strong as you consider your options on housing. Seems it is time to take the bull by the b@lls, or the X by the agreement ... and get outta there. Cut him loose!
By now you two should be way past keeping notes on each other's behavior ... but I see a need for you to journal X's suggestion that you violate the terms by not selling when a proper offer exists. Journal his interference by refusing his role in seeking permitting of his shed project. Journal his disregard for proper medical tests, diagnosis, and prescriptions when your son was ill. You took the time and responsibility to see the doctor, then follow up with final results to X (I assume you paid for everything) so son could be treated. X's disregard for need to treat son and prevent the spread of disease is imature and irresponsible, at best.
It just seems like you will find more relief than regret by controlling your own future and doing what needs to be done. After everything MLC that I was forced to experience before, during, and after the Sep ... and into the D ... my X wrote angry emails refusing to go to court to sign the final document. Only one of us needed to appear and tell judge it was over. But who ever appeared would pay another hour or two of L fees and X was still furious that we went/paid for mediation when she just wanted me to agree with her terms and just use her L.
That would have made it "our" D, provided her some control, and absolved her of any final guilt. The MLC dream is to end things, maintain control of all things in their life, and be free of guilt. Xs don't always get everything they want. Maybe that has something to do with what they want.
"Good luck" with the permits and sale. "Good grief" regarding the X. Congratulations on living "The Better Life".
